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Charity begins at Home

I'm sure we all know those people that are hell raisers at home and then quiet and sweet around others. Well we need to practice being patient and loving in our own homes. It takes entirely too much effort to put on a show in public. Love should flow naturally between a family. There is really no need to scream at people. We are human beings not dogs or crows! If you gently express love, than its possible to gently express dissatisfaction. Try being calm and allowing charity to radiate between the people in your home!

Give Relief Days

Allow your spouse a day that's just for them. Sometimes a marriage and a family can become stressful when all the weight is on one person. Men call the aunts or grandparents and let them get the kids for a day to give your wife a break. Let her relax at home with a nice back rub. Or let her be free to go out with some of her girlfriends for lunch and a movie. Whenever you see(and trust me, if you look. you will see) that your spouse is becoming overwhelmed, give him/her a break.

Be Supportive

When your spouse wants to engage in a new endeavor or try to start a business or whatever the case may be, try to be supportive! A lot of men don't feel the true support of their spouses when they try to step out and do something that they feel is a strong move. For men, it is important that they be the providers that they are meant to be. So they may try several things that may fail for different reasons, but don't let one of those reasons be the lack of spousal support. I know it may get annoying and if it comes to a place where its a constant strain on your finances, then discuss it. Never start out discouraging!

Be Honest

A sure way to cause conflict in your marriage is to hide things from one another. Sometimes, while watching movies you find yourself yelling at the screen saying, "just tell her" or "just tell him"! Suspicions can be avoided by simply being honest. Your spouse should be your best friend. Therefore, you should be able to talk to them about everything. Being truthful allows all feelings to be out in the open and leaves no room for hidden desires or misunderstandings.

Be Open-Minded

Adventure is caffeine in a relationship. Yes, those quiet evenings at home watching movies are great. But, sometimes you should get out and do new things. Not necessarily bungee jumping, but something that gets your adrenaline pumping. Experiencing new things together creates a visible bond between you. Pull over at a grassy field and run through it. Make out in the car or somewhere new. One thing that is true for most men is that they love spontaneity! When a woman can just go with the flow it can drive a man wild! We as women tend to have more reservations than men. Just relax sometimes and trust the person you love. It can take your relationship to another level!

Let It Go

Yes you are an individual and you like things a certain way, but in a marriage you just have to let some things go. If you are in love with your spouse, your desire should not be to change everything about them! Most men don't care about how the toothpaste looks, or if hair is on the sink, and definitely not if the toilet seat is up. Ladies, we have to understand that's their nature and just let it go. Once we start to nitpick about every little thing it starts to feel like a parental relationship instead of a marriage. That same feeling that you have as a teenager when your parent is always breathing down your neck about something comes into your marriage. It is the beginning of longing to get away and out of the house. Then the real problems start! Just love one another and let simple things go. There will be more challenging things ahead!