Sunday, May 24, 2009
Be Honest
A sure way to cause conflict in your marriage is to hide things from one another. Sometimes, while watching movies you find yourself yelling at the screen saying, "just tell her" or "just tell him"! Suspicions can be avoided by simply being honest. Your spouse should be your best friend. Therefore, you should be able to talk to them about everything. Being truthful allows all feelings to be out in the open and leaves no room for hidden desires or misunderstandings.
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I agree with your comments. Couples must be honest at all costs. Most importantly your spouse should be your best friend. Remember the best friends that you had growing up from time to time. As soon as something happened you couldn't wait to pick up the phone to call. That's the way marriage should be. There should be openness and excitement and there should be no secrets.
ReplyDeleteRemember the scripture about Satan walking to and fro seeking whom he might devour. The marriages with the secrets tend to be devoured first. Satan is very patient. He waits for that opportune moment when the revelation of the secret will do the most damage and then he allows it to be revealed. If he's had his way, he has not only destroyed a marriage but a family as well.
Now you must remember that God is a jealous God and he wants the glory. He wants glory for every aspect of our lives, most importantly our marriage. He said that marriage was honorable above all things. He intended for the husband to be the head of the household. He intended for the husband to be our spiritual covering. God created the wife to be the helpmate. How can these two position operate in unison if their secrets are lurking like silent accusers?
My husband of nearly 25 years went to be with Jesus recently. We went through some issues from time to time, some big and some small. I don't care how much you pray or how much you love God your are going to go through. At any rate, I was praying all piously one time because I thought I was the "good one" in this particular issue. Then God told me that he had given me unconditional love for my husband. When I tell you that I was really heated with God, that's a slight understatement. But in that, God revealed his true nature concerning marriage. It's simply based on the precepts of the bible and God's will for our lives. I love the scripture that says while we were yet sinner, Christ died for us. God allowed me to see that true love is not based on perfection, it's based on forgiveness and steadfast love. You cannot forgive what you don't know. While it is a secret it is a weapon for the enemy. There is another scripture that says our righteousness is as a filthy rag to God. Marriage through the heart of God is a beautiful thing. It is based on love and complete acceptance. God's love says that there is nothing that we can do that will not Him to love us. In that type of love, there is no need for secrets.
great advise! Can someone cross the line by being too honest?
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