Friday, May 15, 2009

How much should one person compromise?

Thanks for the question Dorothy. As we have stated, compromise is a foundational part of a relationship. It is not beneficial to the relationship if one person is doing all of the sacrificing, because it eventually builds resentment. Love causes us to desire to see one another happy. That means that each person will yield equally to have a peaceful relationship. If that is not the case, it seems that one's love for the relationship is stronger than the other's. And in some cases, learning to compromise may take a little longer. It is very difficult to put others before yourself and it may take some longer than others to add that concept to their way of thinking. I would suggest a conversation between the two of you with you explaining what is lacking and what you expect. Although you want to get your point across, you don't want it to seem like an attack. So maybe over a nice dinner bring it up calmly. If you love one another then it will come. Just be sure that the love is there on your partner's part and that you are not just being taken advantage of.

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  1. Since your blog is titled Laws of Marriage; is there certain "Laws" you go by with your own marriage? I know you are big on communication and compliments but what are some other things?

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